The Letter Of Fairness!

Though force can protect in emergency, only justice, fairness, consideration and cooperation can finally lead men and women to the dawn of eternal peace. fairness is what justice is, it puts the twinkle* in the *stars. it’s not an attitude, it’s a professional skill that must be developed and exercised by all human individuals.
Both men and women will assert a claim to self-esteem, much of which is derived from gender identification. So, forget being right  and prepare to understand that mysterious opposite sex  if your goal is a successful relationship with a special person.
Dear Beloved,
Life often takes drastic turns. At times we may not know what is ahead. I have found solace in following your lead, confident that we are capable of facing whatever challenges may lie ahead. I look forward to spending an eternity with you. A compliment of you is what I strive to be. I am confident that we will live together for an indefinitely long time. Why?
I love you. I love you in every sense of the word. I love you with warm and personal affection, as a close friend. I love you as a dear family member. I love you romantically. Most of all I love you with the strongest form of love, principled agape love; a love that is an unselfish concern for doing what is right and good, whether it appears to be deserved or not. It is a love that covers mistakes. It provides the basis for “putting up with one another and forgiving one another freely.” Granted we all make mistakes, but this love allows us to forgive. This principled agape love never fails. It is a perfect bond of union.
I deeply respect you. I want to honour you by being kind to you, respectful of your dignity and expressed views, and ready to fulfil any reasonable request made of me. I want to show my deep respect by considering what is best for you and giving that priority. I understand and accept that we may not always agree. It would be unreasonable to expect us to have identical opinions and views on everything. However, I do respect your views and opinions. I want to show my respect for your dignity as well by not making you the object of demeaning jokes or comments.
Because of the love and deep respect I have for you, I feel we can overcome any obstacles that may lie ahead. I feel we can have a happy future together, forever. There are many things I need to work on, many things I want to do but have yet to accomplish. I really need to work at communicating. Good communication flourishes when there are gently spoken words, gracious looks and gestures, kindness, understanding, and tenderness. I know I have failed at times to be understanding and to speak gently and for this I am truly sorry. While learned behaviour is not an excuse for me to act in such a way, it may assist you in understanding. There are many personality traits I need to improve on. I find more and more aspects of my personality that need improvement each day. Please be patient with me as I try to make these improvements.
I am trying. I am trying to do what you need me to do. I am being patient but I must admit I am confused and slightly frustrated when my efforts to provide you with, what I believe to be, what you need are met with a less than positive reaction. At times I feel no matter what I do, or how, I am only going to succeed in causing you pain. I am being patient, and will continue in my patience, hoping to gain understanding in time.
I am learning to keep your interests first. You think this cannot be learned, I disagree. I have lived the majority of my life putting the needs of others first. However, for self-preservation I began putting myself first in order to avoid extreme pain and heartache. I had been trampled and beaten so often that in order to save my self from more harm I needed to put my interests first. I know I am capable of putting your needs, wants, and desires first and foremost. I know because it was a challenge to make myself less selfless and more selfish. I do love you and trust you completely. I need to recondition myself and readjust my thinking. I know you will not cause me any intentional harm. This knowledge allows me to make myself vulnerable again. I am able but most of all I truly desire to look out for your best interests instead of my own.
I love you sincerely, without reservation. I respect you deeply.

* just so you no,  this letter is not for someone in particular, its a way of expressing feelings in a situation*

Sarah  ♥

Battle Of The Sexes

what i am implying may be taken into offence, some of the following paragraphs of this post may contain harsh personal opinions about different circumstances in ordinary relationships.

I'll get straight to the point. i personally have a major belief in violence against both women and men. domestic violence takes place in most households in the world 30 of every 1,000 females and 45 of every 1,000 males are victims of severe violence committed by their spouses. i hate hearing stories about divorces and unfaithful commitment and worse of all, the Jerry Springer scenarios we have in this period of time. I’m going to be a little bit bias here, that's only because i am speaking the truth! I'm not going to talk about specific men but generals males. some men in relationships don't give a flying fuck! by that i mean that they are willing to break a woman's heart for something they selfishly want to an extent. okay so its not just males but the outstand females, ladies know when to stop and have clear vision of  downfall and what could happen if…! so relationships aren't perfect but its the obvious things that us individuals can do to change circumstances and situations to prevent the conflict from actually happening.

• males need to understand that when a girl talks to you, she is interested in your opinion about what she is saying even if she isn't asking you a question. and ladies, please don't talk constantly into the poor guys ear’s once he has come from a hard day’s work.
• most normal ladies like keeping their house clean, unlike my scummy old neighbour who lived alone, manless and loved smoking indoors and eating bacon in a kitchen filled with baby roaches. my point is, when she’s doing the vacuum, don’t wait for her to tell you to lift your legs up while your eye’s are glued to the television sett.
• guys should consider that women are at home cleaning, taking care of the kids, preparing meals, and having duties of their own.
• girls should consider that males wake up early in the morning to go to their jobs for income not pleasure. only to at least provide bread on the table. okay so construction workers and builders don’t get the same pay as lawyers do. but they work harder and get income out of it. even though lawyers worked even harder to become what they are and get pleasure, success and great income out of it. so consider that some males are living with the regret of less knowledge but still work and ladies need to appreciate small efforts that are usually big for them but small for us.
• be honest with your man for he will return it.

SIMPLE KEY POINTS.- for both female and male.

1. It's not fair to the other person to depend on them to heal your wounds.
It's not even fair to yourself. Hold your inner child and heal.

2. You can either communicate or vent. Not both. Don't try to work things out
when you're overcharged with emotion. Discharge your emotions first,
by yourself, then communicate.

3. We all just want to be seen. If we can express our own pain or fear,
or see the pain or fear in our partner, instead of getting stuck in anger or blame, we'll move forward.

4. Use the inner clearing process to communicate when you can't "say anything" and everything to the person directly.

5. Under stress we all regress.

6. The 10% rule and it's corollaries:
A. Only 10% of what we're feeling in any situation -- anger, bitterness, fear, jealousy, pain, etc. -- has to do with what's in front of us. The other 90% is from old stuff -- childhood wounds -- triggered by the present situation.
B. It is therefore not fair to blame or attribute all of, or even most of, the pain to the present situation or other person.
C. If we use the triggering of the 90% to take the time to clear and heal our old
wounds, we'll avoid having to have the universe send more triggering situations to us.
D. We'll react less in the future if we have taken the time to feel through and
clear the past.

7. It is a privilege, not a right, to be listened to by our partner.

8. The quickest way to heal interpersonally is to make taboo all references to the injurious events -- for a period of time -- while instead acting only nicely and kindly to the other person. Kill them with love.

9. Make joint decisions in a relationship. Don't just lay your agenda on the other person, trying to convince them of your point of view.

10. Listen when listening is needed, and provide potential solutions/suggestions when that is requested.

11. Your map of reality is not anyone else's. Don't presume you understand the other's motivation, buttons, needs, instead ask the other to help you "learn their book" and how they see things, what they react to most, and what ways they want you to approach and comfort them.

Sarah ♥

Teenage Mentality!

When i feel  that i am doing something that i really don’t want to do, i do a very little bit of it just to see how i am going. like for example studying for H.S.C week, hell i don’t study at all its just not my thing. okay, so I'm willing to go through my notes ands just read over papers. last night i set my phone alarm at 8:00 so i can give my self an hour to get ready. this morning mums at the door of my room telling me the time, she gives me the option of waking up or not and if i don’t it wont surprise her coz its usually 2;30 in the afternoon for me. but no i get a different reaction from one person only, instead i got a “WAKE UP NOW”!! why though, so i can study. don’t fucking force me to do something i don’t want to do. i was doing fine till that moment. like i was going to actually study and show people what i can do but she honestly made me feel like shit. like you know that dumb feeling like getting forced to wake up in the morning and study is just not  my thing and then i get the same lecture like “when i was your age” blahhhhhh i don't giveeeee that was you and i am me!

The reason why i am totally unmotivated for the exams is only because i know that if i study it wont make a difference and plus i am not ready for the stress to be experienced again. you should see me in trial week, it was sooo …. indescribable you feel like excreta and less !

So okay i know I'm hitting you guys with another tantrum hissy fitt but i just don’t get this! like i understand H.S.C and why you have to do it but the fact that doing it bye force.

Sarah  ♥

  

So Called “First Time”

ok so im new to this … and its actually pissing me off quite frankly. its now around 11:00 pm and i’ve only started now. thats only because i spent so much time craeting another masterpiece for my post blog… but no! it had to go in a way that really pissed me off. you see, i only startted my real first blog around three days ago right, but then today i decided to edit it, you know… like make it look real cool and all… yeh it was more like the opposite, like steam fuming out of my ears and boiling red eyes and that’s only because i accidently deleted it!

i cant describe the feeling, it’s like:

- when a guy sleep’s in his dirty mechanic clothes.

- when a girl is getting here nails done, waiting for the smell of acrylic to go.

- like i fly on my nose, and no i was too late to swish and swosh for it too fly away. instead it friggen BIT ME!

so here’s to my so called first post, expressing my temper character is not a great way to open a page but hay … frankly, i don’t give a damn!

okay breath Sarah…..  stress relief … and  1…2…3..4..5..6…7..8…9..10

there, that's better. Regina George has finally escaped from my bitchy system! i have to admit it though, this one is a lot more longer than the original one and sounds a lot less innocent hahah.

wow i haven't even  introduced my self. what better way to start at the end of this likely intense post. so here goes.

- the name is Sarah , S for superwoman, and i don't like creepy crawlies, hairy spiders in particular. i like to keep things plain and simple apart from my hissy fits for obvious reason’s (I'm a girl okay, we have our days and fitts)!

- i like shopping, gummy bears and sour lollies, i tend to laugh at people when they fall and stack it, i actually find it hilarious… oh and also when me and the girls drive by pedestrians… and we scream out and scare em … yeh its only funny when we do it to the old people because the literally wet they pants…. like they do! gosh I'm not evil, i just like having fun!

- i love gadgets, the latest technology and music, there life savers. Music actually make me loose control, like i feel all wako like lady gaga’s outfits. sometimes i listen to the iPod in bed, i know its bad and all, like your suppose to pray and all but yeh … it’s sortta what makes me sleep at night … and mum… no seriously … the 40 year old gangsta’ has a be-be gun to my head…she’s like, “YO FOOL, GETCH YOW ASS BEHINED DEM SHEETS”… heheh. gotta love my mum, were are close as bee’s and their hives.

anyway, plz comment and follow me, coz I'm really cool…(good golly, i just sounded like half the population of YouTube, members be saying “Ya’ll better subscribe” saying it like some kind of threat haha lol … well i only said it the way i said it coz I'm cool okay so there!

12:00 am and i have my year 12 H.S.C. exams tomorrow morning till friggen 5pm… how gay is that ?… no offence to the homosexual society. so yeh, i haven’t even studied or anything, m,y books are laying on the corner of my bedroom floor collecting great grey dirt particles and major dust balls, bigger than the average horses nuts.. heheh very descriptive. that was the only thing i could think of.

okay… honestly … i brag so im gonna go and fill this joint in later!

 

Sarah  ♥